Sweet Dreams [bed sharing and blanket stealing]

I've never been very good at sharing, just ask my mother.

I have been flatting for 12 years now, and am quite comfortable sharing my living space with another person, providing they're reasonably tidy and partake in a spot of cleaning on a regular basis. My lovely boything has moved in with me and I'm adjusting to the difference of living with a partner rather than a flatmate.

Something I am finding it hard to get used to, however, is sharing my bed. I have a double bed (in an ideal world I would have a king-sized bed, but I am an impoverished student and finances say no big comfy bed for us), and am dealing with sharing the sleeping space, but it appears that my boything is a notorious blanket thief. Or rather, he has developed this nocturnal bad habit over the last month or so. He has perfected this amazingly sneaky "grab and roll" technique that enables him to cocoon himself in the duvet, leaving me with none.

Because of the way the boything cocoons himself, I am unable to sneak the blankets back! If they're not wrapped around him, then he is clutching them tighter than Darth Vader's force grip (May the Fourth be with you, Star Wars fans!) and I can't wrestle them back.

I hear some of you scoffing at my whinge about blanket stealing because to you it seems trivial. But when you spend a good portion of every night cold and shivering, and start to resent sharing a bed with your partner, it actually starts to be a touch more serious. This didn't happen when we first started sharing a bed, it's something that has started happening over roughly the last 5 weeks and we'd really like to find a solution as soon as possible. I haven't had a full night of sleep in over a month (not counting the week where I went away without him and we each enjoyed 8 blissful nights of having a whole bed and blanket to ourselves!), and it's driving me up the wall!

I realise that this is not a conscious action on my boything's part, and that's why I really want to find a solution/way of coping with this. Otherwise he will have to be banished to sleep in another room, and I will be sad and lonely. We've tried having another duvet on the bed, so if he steals one then I still have the other, but alas! He manages to swipe both.

Does anyone have any wonderful words of advice that they can offer? Does anyone else have this problem? Please let us know!!! We will be forever grateful to anyone who can help us out.



O bed! O bed! delicious bed!
That heaven upon earth to the weary head.
~Thomas Hood, Miss Kilmansegg - Her Dream

Handbook For Life

Health:

1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince, and dinner like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
4. Live with the 3 E’s — Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy.
5. Make time for hugs.
6. Play more games.
7. Read more books.
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
9. Sleep for 7 hours.
10. Take a 10-30 minute walk daily. And while you walk, smile.

Personality:

11. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don’t have negative thoughts over things you cannot control. Instead, invest your energy in the positive present moment.
13. Don’t overdo. Keep your limits.
14. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip.
16. Dream more while you are awake.
17. Envy is a waste of time. Be grateful for what you have been given.
18. Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
20. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
21. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away (like algebra class) but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
22. Smile and laugh more.
23. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

Society:

24. Call your family often.
25. Each day give something good to others.
26. Forgive.
27. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
28. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

Life:

31. Do the right thing!
32. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
33. Hugs heal everything.
34. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
35. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
36. The best is yet to come.
37. When you awake alive in the morning, be thankful for it.
38. Your inner most is always happy. So, be happy.