I've never been very good at sharing, just ask my mother.
I have been flatting for 12 years now, and am quite comfortable sharing my living space with another person, providing they're reasonably tidy and partake in a spot of cleaning on a regular basis. My lovely boything has moved in with me and I'm adjusting to the difference of living with a partner rather than a flatmate.
Something I am finding it hard to get used to, however, is sharing my bed. I have a double bed (in an ideal world I would have a king-sized bed, but I am an impoverished student and finances say no big comfy bed for us), and am dealing with sharing the sleeping space, but it appears that my boything is a notorious blanket thief. Or rather, he has developed this nocturnal bad habit over the last month or so. He has perfected this amazingly sneaky "grab and roll" technique that enables him to cocoon himself in the duvet, leaving me with none.
Because of the way the boything cocoons himself, I am unable to sneak the blankets back! If they're not wrapped around him, then he is clutching them tighter than Darth Vader's force grip (May the Fourth be with you, Star Wars fans!) and I can't wrestle them back.
I hear some of you scoffing at my whinge about blanket stealing because to you it seems trivial. But when you spend a good portion of every night cold and shivering, and start to resent sharing a bed with your partner, it actually starts to be a touch more serious. This didn't happen when we first started sharing a bed, it's something that has started happening over roughly the last 5 weeks and we'd really like to find a solution as soon as possible. I haven't had a full night of sleep in over a month (not counting the week where I went away without him and we each enjoyed 8 blissful nights of having a whole bed and blanket to ourselves!), and it's driving me up the wall!
I realise that this is not a conscious action on my boything's part, and that's why I really want to find a solution/way of coping with this. Otherwise he will have to be banished to sleep in another room, and I will be sad and lonely. We've tried having another duvet on the bed, so if he steals one then I still have the other, but alas! He manages to swipe both.
Does anyone have any wonderful words of advice that they can offer? Does anyone else have this problem? Please let us know!!! We will be forever grateful to anyone who can help us out.
O bed! O bed! delicious bed!
That heaven upon earth to the weary head.
~Thomas Hood, Miss Kilmansegg - Her Dream
I have been flatting for 12 years now, and am quite comfortable sharing my living space with another person, providing they're reasonably tidy and partake in a spot of cleaning on a regular basis. My lovely boything has moved in with me and I'm adjusting to the difference of living with a partner rather than a flatmate.
Something I am finding it hard to get used to, however, is sharing my bed. I have a double bed (in an ideal world I would have a king-sized bed, but I am an impoverished student and finances say no big comfy bed for us), and am dealing with sharing the sleeping space, but it appears that my boything is a notorious blanket thief. Or rather, he has developed this nocturnal bad habit over the last month or so. He has perfected this amazingly sneaky "grab and roll" technique that enables him to cocoon himself in the duvet, leaving me with none.
Because of the way the boything cocoons himself, I am unable to sneak the blankets back! If they're not wrapped around him, then he is clutching them tighter than Darth Vader's force grip (May the Fourth be with you, Star Wars fans!) and I can't wrestle them back.
I hear some of you scoffing at my whinge about blanket stealing because to you it seems trivial. But when you spend a good portion of every night cold and shivering, and start to resent sharing a bed with your partner, it actually starts to be a touch more serious. This didn't happen when we first started sharing a bed, it's something that has started happening over roughly the last 5 weeks and we'd really like to find a solution as soon as possible. I haven't had a full night of sleep in over a month (not counting the week where I went away without him and we each enjoyed 8 blissful nights of having a whole bed and blanket to ourselves!), and it's driving me up the wall!
I realise that this is not a conscious action on my boything's part, and that's why I really want to find a solution/way of coping with this. Otherwise he will have to be banished to sleep in another room, and I will be sad and lonely. We've tried having another duvet on the bed, so if he steals one then I still have the other, but alas! He manages to swipe both.
Does anyone have any wonderful words of advice that they can offer? Does anyone else have this problem? Please let us know!!! We will be forever grateful to anyone who can help us out.
O bed! O bed! delicious bed!
That heaven upon earth to the weary head.
~Thomas Hood, Miss Kilmansegg - Her Dream
The two Duvets worked fine for me and my partner, one each. Maybe a spare blanket by your bedside so that when you wake up cold you can put that one on.
ReplyDeleteHmmm tricksy, It has probably started happening lately because the weather has been getting a bit colder. Me and my boyfriend are chronic blanket cocooners so we just have a blanket each, but I have a queen slat bed so its easier to avoid blanket wrestling.
ReplyDeleteWhen I used to stay over at his house he had this piddly little double bed that sunk in the middle and I couldn't stand it, I eventually opted to sleep on the couch where I got a much better sleep.
My suggestion would be to, Instead of having two blankets on the bed just in case he steals one, have a blanket each when you get into bed. That way you can both start off in your own separate cocoons. so if hes already all snuggled up he may not need to get comfy in the middle of the night... if that makes sense.
If that doesn't work you may have to, somehow, get a bigger bed *shrug*
Looking forward to hearing how you go.
Thanks for the advice! We'll give starting out with two duvets a go, and let you know how we get on (fingers crossed we can also afford a new bed soon as well)
ReplyDeleteI'll second the second blanket thing - have them overlapping in the middle so you can snuggle together, then when you roll apart each will be likely to take their own.
ReplyDeleteAs he is the main offender, overlap his on top of yours.
For myself though, I just rely on the grab-and-yank.
Yes I would go with the two blankets idea, and keep searching for an affordable but comfy king size bed :)
ReplyDeleteWe seem to have found a solution: I have a really long blanket on top of the other blankets that I have tucked into the foot of the bed. So far, this has kept the rest of the bed made all night for the last 3 nights. YUSS!
ReplyDeleteGood news: the above solution is still working. Now, to save for a king size bed...
ReplyDeleteJust a heads up - we have a king sized bed AND a super-king duvet on the way. #winning
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